You complete me. We’ve all laughed at that trite phrase, right? But it struck me today, that even though most of us have mocked the idea, it’s exactly what we want the most— to feel complete. There is something we lack on our own.
In some ways, my circle of friends completes me. We share interests. It’s a give and take that is mutually beneficial. My friends know how to comfort me like no one else. My family members are also an important part of who I am. They share my genetic makeup and understand me in a way no others can. My husband is my partner for life. He loves and accepts me for better or worse. But—even though I find it difficult to imagine a life without my family and friends, not one of them completes me. Deep inside, I am still searching for more than any earthly being can provide.
For the first 30 years of my life, I looked in all the wrong places for that sense of completion. It took many years of maturing before I began to understand that I was largely motivated by my desire for love and acceptance. My parents were not verbally or physically demonstrative with their love [read about my path to forgiveness]. They set the bar for achievement and obedience very high and no matter how hard I tried, I always felt that I fell short of it. I knew they cared about me, but I was always left wanting. I had a longing that couldn’t be satisfied and it gave me a restless spirit. I went from dating relationship to dating relationship, always searching and never fulfilled.
So it’s no surprise that when it comes to apologetics, I identify the most with the argument from desire. It was my own path to discovering a personal relationship with Christ. The argument from desire follows this logic:
1. Every natural, innate desire in us corresponds to some real object that can satisfy that desire.
2. But there exists in us a desire which nothing in time, nothing on earth, no creature can satisfy.
Conclusion: If the object of this desire does not exist in this world, it must exist in another.
This argument doesn’t prove anything—the knowing can only come with growing faith—but it certainly verbalized the longing that had kept me searching for that feeling of completeness—the feeling that was always seemed just beyond my grasp.
Each of us has a hunger that cannot be satiated by anything of this world. If it could, life would be much less interesting. It’s the quest for that missing part of ourselves that keeps us going. Most of the time, we don’t even know what it is we’re searching for. We just yearn for more. How many times have you heard the complaint, “There must be more to life.”
Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved. Acts 16:31
Then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Philippians 2:2
We are romantics searching the world over for our one true love, and we won’t be truly satisfied until we find that one. For me that search is over. My greatest desire was to be reunited with my Creator. Once I made that discovery, I viewed the world with fresh eyes. It was suddenly clear that the world was not a source for fulfillment, but a lavish display of my Creator’s love for me.
Set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:1-3
“If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.” — C.S. Lewis